Observations of an Invisible Woman

Exodus 3: The Insidious Plan Backfires

” In a Patriarchal Society, the legacy of a man is measured by the status of his woman.”

                                                                              —- Diary of a Negress 





Feel free to use the aboved quote but remember to give me the credit for it.


What if I were to tell you  it was planned this way?

The whole world is in on the joke. The whole world, that is, except black women.

In order to have eternal life, the most powerful source of life must be Spiritually, Physically, Emotionally, Sexually and Verbally siphoned.




A letter from a black female reader:


“Your last two posts really struck a cord in me. I felt like you were telling my own personal story. I was apart of Black Lives Matter. I was physically there protesting along with black men. I was there yelling and screaming for their rights and their livelihoods. Til I saw that the majority of these men raging against the white machine had white girlfriends and wives. ”



Never in my life did I expect to receive such an overwhelming response from EVERYONE.


It seems that telling The Original Woman’s Story struck a chord in us all. I’ve had white women, yes…white women, the one female with the MOST protection and privilege in this known universe, asking me if I could write a post specifically for them, telling their stories about how hard it really is to live up to white men’s impossible standards.


I’ve had letters from white males, who are now specifically dating black women, asking me, of all people,  to help convince black women that they are NOT monsters and genuinely  wish to meet, greet, date and hopefully marry them.


“It’s not just the fantastic sex,” said one white male. “I genuinely prefer black women. They are the most down to earth, loyal, sexy women I know. Their uniqueness makes them special. White women put on airs. Black women are comfortable in their own skin.”



“Yeah…I know what we started”, said another white man in a private letter to me. “But as I’ve gotten older, what society thinks means less and less. I’m now in my fifties. I have nothing to prove to anyone anymore. I own my own company, own several houses and have traveled all over the world. For me, at this stage in my life, black women are just a better fit. They’re more adaptable, more appreciative, look younger than white women even though they may be older and are more sexually giving.

White women treat me like a wallet to be exploited. Black women are happy just being in my company, talking, hanging out, going to a movie, a play, cooking dinner together and just being themselves. I hope more black women will eventually open themselves up to us and not believe the stereotype that all white men are racists.”




I got letters from black men of two persuasions:


The first calling me every horrible name known to man, including the N-Word, the very word he protests whites calling him. 


“No one wants you, you nappy headed N****r. All these men want from you is sex. ”


And the second, who is in deep panic and needs advice on how to “fix this issue.”



“We’re both to blame, Sis. Black women don’t make it easy either but if we can’t fix this problem, we’re not gonna exist anymore…”, said one longtime black male reader to me.



And finally, the overwhelming response from black women, young and young-ish, who trust me with their secrets, who trust me to tell their stories anonymously and who are asking for help on what to do next.


“The time is ripe for us,” said one black female Youtuber. ” Before we believed the lies that no one wanted us with our wide noses, big lips, nappy hair and shapely bodies. We let black men convince us that he needs us to help him get free from this system, then he’ll do the right thing by us. We believed him despite all the evidence, historical and present,  because we wanted to. We were scared of this white boogey man who raped our fore-mothers.

We saw the police shootings. We read the books. We watched the movies and it confirmed what we were told. But noone thought to help us with our own men who were doing the exact same thing.”



A letter from a former black power female who now runs a popular Youtube channel:


“Please keep me anonymous. I have much to lose if I change my tune now. I’m a black woman who used to only date black men. I stood up for them when no one would. I’d report on their deaths, their issues, their arrests and make a big deal on how this system is mistreating them. As I’ve gotten older, my needs and wants changed.

I’m in my thirties now and desire a stable life with a man will provide for me so we can build a family. I used to feel it’s my duty to help a man find a job, write his resume, fill out his job application and give him free room and board when he was down on his luck.

I thought that’s what a ‘strong black woman’ is supposed to do.

Now I see the bigger picture.

Black men have NO desire to be free from this system. It’s all smoke and mirrors. They use it as an excuse not to try. It’s always someone else’s fault that they can’t do well, can’t find work, can’t conduct themselves in public, can’t pay their child support payments, can’t pay their car notes and can’t be successful in life. When i see immigrants come over here who can’t speak a lick of English set up a fully thriving community with shops in as little as 5 years, I know for a fact that black men can do better.

I got tired of the same excuses over and over and over again.

I’m with a white man now. He’s Norwegian. He’s very kind and open minded. He admits that he’s never been with a black woman before but felt drawn to me. He loves my natural hair, my thick curves and my colorful taste in clothing. I can just be a woman around him and not feel judged if I make a mistake or get depressed and sulky.

He places no higher standard for me because I’m black. He just treats me like he would treat any other woman. And that’s why I’m with him. That and all the kinky sex.”



A long time reader wrote to me privately just a few days ago:

“Hope this finds you well, and thank you for even discussing this.

It is much needed and long overdue.

Back in the day, I was a staunch proponent of black love only for black women. Then, my ex (who is a black man) walked out on me. He eventually explained that it was because I was now too educated and that he wanted someone different.  I intended to commit to another black man, but it just never worked out that way. They always seemed to show their disdain for black women, and their unwillingness to commit to anything worthwhile with me just took its toll and before I knew it, non black men started to pay a bit more attention to me, something many black men said would never happen.

As of now, I’m in a relationship with a white guy. I never expected this to happen. He treats me with way more respect than my ex, Afrocentric/African-centered partner ever did. Every day is not all rainbows and unicorns, but for the most part, the relationship is a harmonious one. To my white partner, I am a woman first and the expectation seems that I be that at all times. And in being a woman, I am allowed the freedom to explore, keep a messy home, wear short dresses, make-up, cry, sulk and laugh for no apparent reason. All these things are just normal to my white partner, but they were points of contention with my ex black partner.

I don’t know what lies ahead for the collective of black women as it relates to this issue, I just hope that we start to realize that many non black men are not opposed to being in long-term relationships with us and that there are no hard, fast rules to follow when it comes to this like many black women centric YouTube circles would have you believe. You don’t have to be a size 2, you don’t have to be natural or dark-skinned or any of that. You just have to be an open and loving black woman. Even if I don’t marry my partner now, I am convinced that whomever I do marry likely won’t be a black man. You can publish this if you like. I just wanted to share my story.

And it is quite telling that black men can sex, marry and procreate with any woman on the planet and protect his right to do so, however, he feels he has the right to impose a life of celibacy on black women.”




Another letter from a black woman from the West Indies:

“How explicit can I get with you? I once casually dated a man who told me at the end of the date, that he was gonna put me in the hospital. He bragged that he was gonna “tear me up” and “break my back”. I’m standing there thinking to myself: How is this a turn on? Was that supposed to get my p***y all wet? I’m supposed to run home and play with myself with the imagery of this very large, hairy, black man severing my spinal cord? If you think men in the states are bad, come down here…”

( Her letter was edited to keep this post from becoming a porno. In fact, many of the women who wrote to me told me explicit details of how the black men they dated bragged about their sexual skills and how white and non black men said virtually nothing about their prowess…but proved it when the time came. )



“…he kept me up half the night making love. I had to call out from work the next day to recuperate..”, said one black woman in her fifties of her hispanic lover.




Let me make this very clear:


ALL men of ALL races seek to control the Womb. Why? Because he who controls life becomes a God. 


In the near future, here are some things that will happen pertaining to the black female:



One: The Black Woman of a certain type will become the most desired, sought-after female on this planet, especially in terms of fertility. As the most desired woman, it will be her womb that men will fight for and men will seek to protect if they desire eternal life. It will be her imagery that will be OPENLY and ADMITTEDLY copied by ALL races of women. And ALL women will vie for her dark complexion.



Two: The white female will fade into the background. Decades of white feminism will finally catch up to her and she’ll be left alone to her own devices. Her self imposed victimhood will disappear and her “innocence” will be lost. Melanin Pills will become the new version of Skin Bleaching Cream as she scrambles to emulate the image she once spat upon.




Three: Women of Colour, they know who they are, will suddenly claim their blackness and proudly announce their Afrikan fore-mothers.




Four: The men who hold the most resources and have the ability to offer the most protection will be first in line for her hand.




Five: Beauty and Fashion magazines will plaster images of dark women of a certain archetype and the media will reflect those changes.




Six: Gentrification will take place according to the societal level of the black female and her chosen mate. It is she who will lead the housing market.




Seven: The children born of her union, her Mitochondrial DNA,  with chosen mate will rise up and become the face of envy. Their progeny will become the new race of “black” people to lead.



Sound far fetched?

Not really.

Research history and you’ll see that it has happened before.




And finally, for those that will intentionally misinterpret this post and twist it into something sinister. No matter how much you try and spin this, I am not pushing black women into the arms of white/ non black men.


You did a fine job of that alllllllllllll by yourselves.


There is one thing, however, that stills baffles me.  And for the life of me, I still can’t understand it.

Black men have unlimited access to all body types, shapes, skin complexions, hair textures, facial features, eye colours, heights, decorums, professions, personalities and educational levels of black women. We are not a monolithic group of people.

I’ve met black women who are delicate, strong, weak, air headed, quirky, argumentative, shy, quiet, feisty, Spiritual, atheist, kinky, virginal, neat freaks, messy and everything in between.

With allllllllllll that choice, with alllllllllll that we have to offer, why trash it? Why step on it? Why kill it? Why beat it? Why defile it? Why spit on it. And then turn around and blame it for your failings?


Have you any idea what you’ve done?


You do know that you are responsible for the intense curiosity that other men are showing us, correct? You should’ve kept quiet and came to us PRIVATELY and allowed us to work on our issues BEHIND CLOSED DOORS. But you didn’t. You screamed as loud as you could and caused the one thing you didn’t mean to cause:




You should’ve known that the white man is an intensely inquisitive man.


He wants to know everything about everything. That’s why he’s in charge. You caused him to take a second look at your woman with her coily hair, her round ass, her nicely shaped lips, her even, ageless complexion, her unique beauty, her opinionated stance on things she feels passionate about, her passionate lovemaking, her loyalty, her ability to cook flavourful meals, her ability to fight and be a warrior when need be…  and decided he likes what he sees and now he wants it for himself.




And now it backfired.



Remember this even if you choose to remember nothing else:



Once you remove the Womb from a Tribe, the Tribe dies






I have a quick question for the hardened, rough and tough talking, prison bird, gun slinging, street thug that have no issues kicking an elderly grandma on the train:


. Where were you when this was happening?


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Where were you when she was grabbed and almost pulled over the counter at work?




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Don’t worry…


I’ll wait.




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31 thoughts on “Exodus 3: The Insidious Plan Backfires

  1. Great post!

  2. Alberto Macstaire on said:

    This is exactly what you are promoting—wm/bw relationships. I have seen it before, and what has happened is that you are now dating a non-black man, thinking about it or being infiltrated and corrupted by the swirling posse.

    The issues with black women is on three fronts: Accountability, integrity and hypocrisy.

    Black women will never held themselves and each other accountable for anything damaging. She will wreck her family due to promiscuity and it is the husband’s/boyfriend’/ man’s fault because he couldn’t afford what she wanted. A single mother will take credit for anything her child does good but will blame the “absentee” father for anything that child is doing bad.

    Majority of the time the black woman has no integrity. She will know, and I assuming she knows she is wrong, but does not acknowledge her wrong doing; however, instead of seeking solutions will double on wrong doings. She also project her insecurities about hair, complexion, body image, etc, on the black males, when majority of the time she is one bleaching her skin, wearing wigs, weaves and color contacts. She claimed it is because of what black men like, yet in the same breath, proclaims black men can’t tell her what to do. A black woman once told me she prefers compliments and validation from white men, because white men’ compliments bear more weight because they have more influence, so of course black men cease to compliment her.

    The hypocrisy is that black women only have problems with white women. They will overlook everything a white man has done to them, but will never forget what a white woman has done. Their confirmation bias when it comes to white Male is palpable. A white man will beat a black woman to a pulp, yet black women will switch the narrative to black men. A black man does the same and he’s called out of his name; black woman does it and she is a folk hero.
    Black women only see the good white men and only the bad that black men do. Why? Because, deep down they want the validation the white women have, and feel only white man can give them that, and like you said foolishly believing white men will choose them over white woman. Life is a cycle and no time in history white men have ever held black women higher than their own women, and history repeats itself, so we can rest assure this won’t be happening. If white men is better than black men and love black women more than black men do, maybe it is time black women start asking white men for protection; because, it is surely a waste of time to ask the men you lumped in one basket, insulted, berated, and emasculated.

    We need to address the real truth. The white men seeking black women and vice versa are hurt people looking for solutions to their problems in the worst places. They should really start focusing on their individual selves.

  3. @ Alberto:

    Thank you very much for this post.

  4. angel9loveu on said:

    Your post is causing me anxieties. Cause this seems seriously outlandish.After everything white men do and are still doing black women are becoming so desperate for any penis. And the idea of putting the offspring of this union on a pedastle.The popular youtuber should just go ahead and expose her damn self. Cause she’s preaching a bloody lie.This is what happens when people have no vision nor believe in pure TRUTH,purpose and potential.I don’t care how nice a white man treats me.Fetish is not love we were uncomfortable in our skin because of them and their push to please “Becky” the white woman.
    We must have damn standards not everything should be about sex or dropping our draws cause we’re too horny to think about what we are fucking. White men are 3/5th human no amount of cooing or money or inquisitive seeking attention will cause any woman in her right mind to condemn her pussy.

    White men and their cruelty has caused me and my loved ones much grief.If not for me but for my ancestors blood that cries from the soil. We need to have some common sense not to follow these rotten BM to damnation for some damn fetish and money white men made off of cruelty, criminal means and brainwashing. If witchcraft is working on the men try something more powerful.Not follow as they do over a cliff with WW’s rotten cooch to WM rotten dicks.

  5. @ angel

    I put no one on a pedestal.

    And I stated that I knew this would be misinterpreted. All I’m doing is posting my *observations* and telling black women’s stories.

    That’s all.

  6. angel9loveu on said:

    My anger is not toward you.I saw where you put you are not promoting these relationships only showing what’s being said. But the black women who can’t see
    white men are dying out.Let them die out they are pure evil and not species of their own word.They die out and we can take out Becky and the weak BM.I’m even suspecting they might not all bE authentic BW and troll accounts. I received the message. But it still causes anxieties cause white men have never stopped being the most evilest,vilest,beings on the planet their succubus females are barren and they are looking for other wombs to plant their parasitic, demon race to carry on their mistreatment and the destruction of the planet and innocents.

  7. @ Angel

    It’s fine. And i understand.

    A black woman emailed me with the last post, Exodus 2, to say the same thing about white people becoming extinct.

    I’ve said this myself on many occasions.

    He’s trying to prolong himself because his woman is having difficulty with fertility. So now, he wishes to tap back into the Original Womb.


    Old news.

    We pretty much all understand that.

    So I asked her this:

    When he dies off and takes his agriculture, propane, gasoline, electricity, houses, farm animals and all the bells and whistles with him, how will the black woman fare?

    She seemed confused by my question.

    So I asked her: Who will provide these little comforts called farming and heat for her so she won’t freeze in the middle of January?

    I never did get an answer.

  8. angel9loveu on said:

    Did someone hijack your account? Is this diary of a negress who wrote all those brilliant pieces on building black and tie bits how to survive on grid?
    Then we build our own. If white people were so brilliant they would’ve never stolen a race of people to do their farm work.Both Black men and black women built America. We Build their houses, take care of their rotten bastards and build this great Nation.

    Fire was not created by the white man, if the white man wasn’t stealing robbing and killing everyone for their inventions they would have nothing.

    The latter part seems like a white persons talking points. Are you ok?

  9. ICanCareLess FuckYourFeelings on said:

    Thank you for this post. This is a wonderful, wonderful post. The real black women will rise in the ignorant black females who caused all of our demise who put their sons over their daughters who created these hateful black males she’s going to get the Wrath of the great mother first for betraying her own sisters. The black males who are killing black men women and children in the media and in person, making millions and millions and millions of dollars off of our demise, they have a special judgment coming to them. And the ignorant black females who put these “KANGZ” on the pedestal and throwing innocent black women and children under the bus constantly, who will watch them get beaten murdered and killed, they both want to get the worst judgement ever. Mark my words, if at the beginning process of happening.

  10. bedwenchesrus on said:

    You little dirty immigrant bitch go get a white dude then. Your bitch ass mad because you’re unwanted then want to justify running to the arms of your slave master. I hope all the dumb bitches that think like you go and get just what you’re looking for… You bitches will never be held over white women stupid. Lol I your bedwench dreams. They have been the partners and breeders in white supremacy ever since whites left the cave.

    White males have resources because they raped, stole and killed to get it. They’re all going to pay dummy. Life is continuous this is just a stop. I’m sorry blacks haven’t lowered ourselves to that vibration to fix the world (which will happen sooner than later). But your sellout ass wants to act spiritual and intune with the universe, but then trade on black men to get with the devil for more resources. Well go right ahead bedwench. Just stop promoting your coon talking points to American blacks. Take your musty ass back to the rock you floated from.

    P.s. I don’t care if this ever gets posted. Long as you get to read it you crusty Bed Wench.

    Play in traffic you dumb hoe. You’re a opp now..

  11. ebony82 on said:

    Thank you for posting this and I will continue to share this information with others. Everything that you have written in this post on what the change will begin to look like has already been happening. The thing about the truth: it is difficult to accept and many would rather ignore, justify or deny it away. The truth is also extremely uncomfortable and I can (somewhat) understand the anxiety and fear it is causing others. They should feel anxious and afraid because painful truth is devastating at times. Two things need to happen: either change the behavior or face abandonment by those your behaviors hurt. However, while they are free to share their opinions or desire to stay behind, they are NOT free to force those women who have opened eyes to do so. There is something called “free will”. They continue to truly believe that the “system of white supremacy” is holding them back while continuing to ignore how they are, in fact, holding themselves and each other back. We do not have to all go down together. Some of us want to live and enjoy life, not just survive and “whatever-may-come” it. Black women who desire freedom should not be obligated to stay behind for a collective of men and women who believe that all of the ills and failures of the black community is their fault. How can one blame EVERYTHING on half of an equation? It. Makes. No. Sense and is extremely defeatist. If a man blames all of his failures on a woman, how then can he call himself a man? On the other hand, if a woman is the reason for their problems, then implanting herself in another (better) ecosystem should not be an issue. Black women who desire love, appreciation and stability should not be obligated to carry the burden of a community which does absolutely nothing to protect, uphold and support them. It is time that progressive minded, freedom seeking black women only care about those who truly demonstrate caring about their existence and helping them thrive. Not simply saying it. Words are cheap and action is everything. The community has been on life support for a while now and the prognosis is not getting better. Either sink or swim. Until things change for the better, step to the side. A growing number of us are choosing to swim. We should no longer be blindly loyal and forgiving to those who are not loyal and forgiving towards us, including those who “look like us”. If you hate my image, you hate me. If you disrespect my image, you disrespect me. If you abuse my image, you abuse me. If you abandon my image, you abandon me. Respecting ANYONE who refuses to acknowledge their own faults is done and over with.

  12. angel9loveu on said:

    Have some damn accountability. You expect the BW to shoulder all the blame for your lame ass ducking responsibility

  13. angel9loveu on said:

    @ebony I understand and acknowledge your opinion.So you would rather be lied to that your are appreciated and loved by a group of people “white people” who are historical liars. Ask Becky about how” the better ecosystem” is an illusion and save yourself giving damning and deadly advice.I don’t consider anyone a friend whose advice is set upon can’t beat them join them and live off the splendor of their criminality and lies. White males must be desperate sending out their concubines to advertise their false security.NOT even the devil’s wealth is secure as none who steals another’s wealth will not go without recompense and to those that join him.I don’t ccommunivate with swirlers as they are riddled with the demons whose semen and fluids they exchange with. I only hope you don’t have swirlers regret like the many who are finally understanding you can’t lay with the beast and not catch fleas.
    My cousin married an older white subman who is also richer she was lively and full of life.10 years later she is unrecognizable.The life drained out of her she looks like death turned over.That white man and his money is a curse.It’s as if you females are so lost you have lost any semblance of common sense or love for yoursleves.
    Swirlers will be partaking of the curses of the demons they swirl with so get ready. What kind of sense does it make to create babies who grow up to wreak havoc on earth and curse the existence of any black DNA left in them.Learn from the mistakes of many like yourself who have decided to jump ship and keep fighting

  14. Layla Melodie on said:

    There seems to be a lot of emotions from commenters here.

    But BWE circles have been warning black men that this was coming.
    Now it can’t be ignored. A very recent Zales commercial featured a nappy haired, slender black woman wearing a blue dress and high heels and a blonde white man kneeling on his knee slipping that diamond on her finger.

    My question is what the hell did ya’ll expect?

    For us to stop living like any other woman? For us to grow old alone?
    Just because most black men, especially the so called good ones, don’t see value in us DOES NOT mean the rest of the global community of men feels this way.
    Say what you will about black women picking up their lady parts, pride and dignity and getting out of the cycles of black poverty, abuse and trauma because it WON’T stop it.
    It was a real eye opener four years ago when the black girls from my new job all brought their boyfriend’s to a fish fry sponsered by the boss and ALL their men were non black! Little did I know I was about to join that crew.
    One has since gotten married and had a baby. The child has the father’s skin color, not her mother’s.
    Those commenting here attacking the messenger and not the black men who have practiced abandoning and killing whole generations of black women and children are fucking delusional when I am more than three times as likely to be killed at the hands of a black husband or boyfriend than a white female by a white male or even the biggest Boogeyman to ya’ll: white supremacy.

  15. Layla Melodie on said:

    “Fetish is not love”

    Well, damn it, guess what: I’d rather be a white man’s whore than the gum on the bottom of a black man’s shoe.

    ~Kola Boof

  16. Alberto Macstaire on said:


    First and foremost, We have been bearing the brunt of the burden as men for years, while the women get a free reign. Notice, anytime the black man start building, and the community start uniting, here comes feminism pulling the black woman aside and whispering in her ear that she should be the leader of community, and she doesn’t need the black man. Moreover, she eventually turns on him and the dysfunctions starts and weakens the unity.

    I care little for swirling, as I see it as weeding out the weak minded ones in the race pool. However, my angst is towards its promotion by people who should know better. What I do know about swirlers, based on my experience being in close proximity such as them being neighbors and old friends, is that they are not honest and forthcoming about their relationship. They put on a front at all times due to pride; they put in more energy into their relationship just to prove a point that they have made the right choice. If these black men and women had put in the same energy towards each other they would have the same result or sometimes even better considering they would have less anxiety and trepidation about being viewed negatively by society.

    The issue many of these dishonest black women are having with black men is that, with social media, black men are given a larger platform to speak out and be heard. Before, when it was only television and radio, it was only black women whom were given the privilege to speak. Women and men are not two, but each is rather half of the black race. If we keeping pointing fingers at the men, we will not get anywhere, the women also has influence and power, so they need to be accountable as well. I used to follow one youtuber who was trying her best to hold the females accountable, but they all turned on her, until one swirler invited her to a private chat (to settle their dispute) and now all her contents are black Male bashing and colorism. One female said, “we are females, we shouldn’t be arguing with each other”, which to me, means there is no room for dissenting opinion if you are a woman. If one is looking for solution, the reasoning need to logic based, not appealing to emotions, threat, majority or any other fallacies.

  17. angel9loveu on said:

    LOL….White males have been killing black women more and longer than black men. Your air you breathe, medication,relationships, lifestyle, the food you eat, water you drink white god you pray to all manipulated by the white man to kill you and isolate you.They still killing black women and children today in disproportionate numbers. But they are so good, sly and savage it makes your head spin at the killing planting the guns,drugs, poisons in black communities through the other nations they allow here to come and get rich of the backs of black people but they require you to exchange bodily fluids with their nasty ass a whore to get anywhere a simpleminded swirlers wouldn’t grasp the concept of deception cause they are satisfied with being cum buckets for white men who are sewer rats and carry more than 1500 viral diseases in their blood. Your nuts black people didn’t have issues with STDS until they started sexing the white men. But hey if you like the permanent itch who am I to judge.You are either a white troll or bugged out your mind completely.
    A slow death but the white man has the world beat in the deaths and rapes of black women considering most of south america whited out and the Caribbean and now Africa. How do you think it got that way? Before there was swirling they were raping, ramming and pillaging.And sharing black women with their other hillybilly diseased criminal friends who were exported from Europe. The blood of countless innocents cry out from the graves because of the savage white man you let stick his funky dick in you.
    This emotion comes from having a heart not being a cold callous reprobate

  18. angel9loveu on said:

    Be upfront you rather be a fetish than truly be loved.Just say that and sparer us the bullshit.

  19. angel9loveu on said:

    Now there we go now I get your logics.But the devil fooled both of us.And you spoke of leadership for the black man. Which is the point she is trying to make, that black men have to stop shifting blame with great power comes great responsibility as no one would have broken in to cause the havoc on our community with out the leaders permission and many times it’s by straying into unchartered territories. No one is denying the power given to black males they are just distracted, angry and shouldering it on the considerably more delicate sex.
    A deeper examination of priorities need to be set or we’ll be heading no where fast for along time.

  20. Good post. It is interesting to see how quite a few black women are finally, finally waking up and seeing the light. Finally seeing how all our efforts and support and advocacy of black men means absolutely NOTHING to too many of them, and how this same type of man has a very blatant and in-your-face preference for ww.

    I do not agree with all of your opinions, particularly your predictions about the future, but overall I think your analysis of the situation with some of our men is correct. I do have one question and that pertains to the “certain type” of black woman who you feel will be the most sought after in the future. Could you please describe this type of woman?

  21. @ the seer


    From what I see happening right in front of me, she looks something like this:

    Well spoken
    Soft yet fiery when need be
    Good Etiquette
    Clean and neatly dressed
    Feminine yet tough
    Able to give good advise
    Good motherhood skills if that’s what she wants
    Good hygiene
    Someone a man can be proud to walk into a room with
    Cooking skills or the ability to learn
    Passionate in bed at any age
    Takes care of herself and shows it

    Age, height and color complexion seems to not matter. Although weight class seems to be slender to medium/ thick.

    Many on here have intentionally dredged up an “ideal” black woman who is dark, natural haired, big booty, blah, blah, blah.

    That’s RIDICULOUS.

    Many of the women I see dating out are indeed natural but many have tasteful wigs, tasteful weaves, braids, nails, flat chested, little booty, etc.

    White and non black men show little to no interest in black women’s lipstick choice. They seem to be focused on HER. They seem to be more focused on what she can offer them than what hairdo she sports.

    That’s just my honest observation.

  22. Layla Melodie on said:

    “Be upfront you rather be a fetish than truly be loved.Just say that and sparer us the bullshit.”

    I said it already and am non interested in repeating myself.

    Be glad Sis…

    There are going to be black men left for you. I’m one less nappy-headed b you have to compete with for their limited amount of “affection.”

  23. Alberto Macstaire on said:


    See, as I pointed out earlier, black women care little for logic, when it comes to bashing black men. All I hear is me, me, and me. How is that black men care little for black women, when over 80% are in relationship with black women? How is it that white men care more when 90 % are with white women, then followed by Asian women. None of you ever asked yourself what part you have to play in this, yet you always brag about being more “educated” and more “accepted”. I asked one girl if trade school counts and she said “no”, not realizing most black tradesmen are making more than her and are self-employed.


    you can’t say men don’t see what women wears. The wig and weaves are manifestation of deep insecurity and fears. Think of it this way, no one wants to wear or put on anything that diminishes his or her image. So, if the weaves and wigs are to improves ones image, then what does this say about the black women’ natural self? Black hair is one of the few things that is unique about the black race, and it is been relegated to unimportance, nuisance, and something to be ashamed about, hence hidden. Perfect example again, it in the 70s when black power and unity was the trend, the black hair was that symbol. Why were whites intimidated of black hair in their presence? Why rastafarian, the most prolific rebels against babylonia, where their hair natural and long? I personally avoid black women with fake hair, because I know the pathology comes with that imagery.

    Question: The natural weave is the most celebrated. Why a race of women would exalt another race of women’ hair over their own and wear a next race of women DNA on their head, not even knowing what type of spirit their invoking, by not knowing the individual these hair belong to? White men can be ok with it, because his spirit is most vile by nature, but as black men, we have to think on a deeper level, as it seems the enemies never sleep against us.

    Also, white men, like all other men, like attractive women, however, not everyone is going to end up with one. I have seen black men with unnattractive women of all races. You are falling in white supremacy trap of using white men’s preference as standard. Our women shape different from white women, so we like our women how we see them, a round bum, thick thighs, thick lips and curvy.

    Negress, are you dating interracial now?

  24. I agree with you DOAN what you said!
    The most important thing that BW should understand and care it’s first to have respect for themselves and be careful who and which they are in relationship ,
    don’t let carried away by emotions!
    All these bad relationship of BW and BM it reminds me the bad and fake relationship between WM and WW, they have problems with relationship and birth rate,all their problems and dissatisfaction poured over us!
    The most self-hatred group of people in the world have threw their insecurities and hatred to us,in reality WM and WW don’t love each other,everything we see it’s fake!
    In public WM and WW,they show the perfect face of love but in private they hate each other!
    I wish if BM and BW could at least to pretend when they hate each other instead of doing it publicly!
    BM want to have what WM have but they will never ever have,because BW,
    we weren’t born to be leader it is men job to do, not women!
    I want to say about BW that we should take control of our wombs and not let men control us,I am not baby make or baby machine for some purposes or interests of someone else,especially BW should start to control our wombs.
    I will never ever give my womb for WM no even another life or reincarnation!
    My womb and my life are sacred,I wish more BW who start think like me
    and don’t give their wombs so easy!
    WM aren’t solution of our problems and solitudes,they are the first reason of our problems,BW are free to be who they want but the vicious circle is always that, you can run away from one problem but then you go to another one!
    WM can write the most beautiful poem about BW but I will never ever change what I think about them and their women!
    ” I hope more black women will eventually open themselves up to us and not believe the stereotype that all white men are racists.”
    Yes,why doesn’t he talk about the centuries of rape until today and sexual exploitation of BW body?
    Because there are different category of BW,who want to be exploit and who demand respect,we aren’t made only about booty and again booty,we have also brain and soul!

  25. @DOAN – Thanks for replying. Your description of an ideal woman is very clear.

    On another note, I agree that white men are “intensely inquisitive”. There is nothing inherently wrong with this quality; it can be a good one to have or it can go in the opposite direction and become a fault. It has certainly worked in their favor, I would say.

    As for wanting to know the whereabouts of black men when those two women were attacked: in the McDonald’s incident they were right there, trying to stop that young lady from giving that creep the beat down that he asked for by grabbing her. As for the parking lot incident, wasn’t that a black man who was filming it? If so, there’s your answer. Sad, but true.

  26. angel9loveu on said:

    If you’re not protecting the black woman you don’t deserve to tell her how to wear her hair… They need to have defense mechanisms while you all are busy being mad for nothing. But your ego

  27. To the people that have been emailing me asking about my personal choices:

    Why do you care who I’m sleeping with?

    What does that have to do with an observation that EVERYONE sees happening?

    This silliness is EXACTLY the reason why the black race is on the bottom of society and is now a PERMANENT UNDERCLASS. While other races plan 50 years ahead and try to leave their grandchildren with inter-generational wealth, we’re focusing on who I fuck.

    This 18 year old white boy who still has braces told me that his dad just bought him a gas station, a Shell. I asked him how this is possible and he told me EXACTLY how ANYONE can own one and the process of accumulating wealth for retirement.

    This BOY is thinking about his future 40 years from now. Not the shade of his girlfriends hair this week and how long her fingernails are.

    That was a real eyeopener.

  28. ebony82 on said:

    @DOAN: To put it simply, they care because they are in denial and are delusional regarding the role they also play in their lot. It’s a survival mechanism because the truth can lead to insanity for most of them, especially if they were brainwashed to believe lies and that they are puppets on a string, lifeless beings always controlled by the actions and movements of someone else. That is not a sign of growth or maturity. It’s not anything to celebrate or be proud of. They would rather focus on the inner workings of others rather than the inner workings of self. They’d rather point the finger and tell others they need to change rather than look in the mirror and tell themselves to change. Don’t worry: they aren’t fooling anyone. The eyes can’t deny anything when truly opened, no matter what the ears hear and what the mouth says. Their opinions may/will only affect those who are surviving where they are or want to leave but are afraid because the devil they know is better than the devil they don’t. They have to convince themselves that everyone else besides them is unhappy and miserable because it makes them feel better. The entire world sees the failures of the black collective, hence China banning rap music because they don’t want its negative influence ruining lives of their citizens. Black people collectively concern themselves with trivial things and having a real action plan requires too much consideration.

  29. Alberto Macstaire on said:


    Of course you will refuse to answer. This was the reaction I expected. Yes, it matters a great deal because your platform was built on this. I was here in the beginnin, even when you were fed up and decided to stop blogging. Yes, it matters who you are fucking because if you are fucking non-black men, it means you are no longer part of the equation, biased, and loses your right in this quarrel. It means, as the kids nowaday say, “you are cancelled”. If you have decided to move on with a white man, you should and just keep it moving. You cannot qualify an important topic like this with “observation”, as anecdotal evidence will be biased and one sided. Some of us only peer through our window, while some of us travel the world.

    You were vehemently against all these things you are now promoting. Many black men have left their kids wonderful luxuries, but the one white kid (braces) now becomes all white kids? I know white kids who hate their parents and their parents hate their guts. Bill Gates is one of the richest man in the world, but said he won’t leave his kids a penny, whether that hold true in future I don’t know. The richest man in world just broke up his marriage after caught cheating. The president of the United states is serial womanizer and a sociopath. All these are white men. The attorney general was on trial for rape and sexual harrassment and many more white men lost their careers over it. CDC came out with a study that said black males are the most involved of all men in their children lives, but i bet that flew right over y’all head, because whitey is so good and blacky is bad, right?

  30. angelaroselle on said:

    Finally, you woke up! I used to comment and visit your blog during my “pro Black” phrase but I stopped. The reason why I stopped was because I felt that you were still entangled into the whole dynamic where Black women sacrifice their dignity and womanhood at the altar of the Black man and the “Black community”. And I didn’t want to be in a space where the priorities of Black man were centered to the disadvantage of Black women. However I did stumble across your blog when I lurked on Lipstick Alley one day. The topic of the post was about divestment from the “Black Community”. A post of yours was mentioned, and I was surprised. I always thought of you as this pro Black woman who was always willing to do what you feel is best for the collective.

    What made her change her narrative? I said to myself.

    I clicked on the link to your blog, and I read your recent posts. It gave me insight into why your views had changed. Needless to say, I applaud you for seeing the light. It is time Black women in the Americas particularly North America put their needs and wants first. This is not about hatred of the Black man. I don’t hate the Black man. This is about self preservation and choosing the right path in life for yourself. We are in a time where we either sink or swim. I am glad that you and more women of African descent are choosing to swim, and do for self.

  31. Powerful.
    What you have just described is the return of the Dark Divine Woman. Her spirit is alive, which is why the abuse of black women has greatly increased. It’s not an easy climb, but we are ascending. I feel it. I know it. I believe it. Even if you remove spirituality and focus on global demographics, the earth is becoming dark skin once again as it was designed to be. Those who have tarnished the earth are being purged from it. The spirit of the Dark Divine lives on! You may or may not be spiritual, but everything you mentioned is in direct alignment with her teachings.

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